I had a friend in primary school who was less a friend and more of an acquaintance whose parents got along with mine, which meant we’d play at each other’s houses some Sundays when our parents needed a child-free day.
One such Sunday I was staying at his house and they had forgotten that a fellow classmate of ours was having a birthday party to which I was not invited. My mother was called and she was all, it’s fine, I’m sure they’ll just let him join in. We drove to the birthday party and I waited in the car while my friend and his mother went inside to find out if it was okay for me to come along.
It wasn’t. The birthday boy was consulted and the request was denied. My friend stayed at the party and I stayed in the car with his mother. She drove me to McDonald’s and bought me some McNuggets. Then we did a little bit of grocery shopping and we went home and watched some tv until the party was over. Then we picked my friend up and I watched all the children leaving the party from the passenger seat.
I was dropped off on the way home at which point the entire event vanished from my memory until it flooded to the front of my mind almost two full decades later, at 1:25pm on the 4th of October 2013. A coworker said something shitty to me, and that memory just came into view as clear as day for no reason at all.
I wonder why the mind works that way.